Pleasurable Sex Techniques: Elevate Your Bedroom Experience

Understanding the significance of foreplay is crucial, as it frequently goes unnoticed. Foreplay doesn’t only happen through touch—it’s about setting the tone for desire with actions, eye contact, and anticipation. Extending foreplay can heighten arousal and result in more satisfying orgasms. Sensual massages, deep kissing, or erogenous zone exploration can create thrills and strengthen emotional connection. Taking time to discover a partner's body and finding their erogenous zones—neck, ears, inner thighs, lower back—can help to tailor your methods for the most pleasure.

In terms of physical techniques, changing rhythm and intensity can be huge. Changing pace—not just sticking to a predictable rhythm, but interspersing slow, deliberate movement with faster, more intense moments—can amplify sensations.

The Butterfly

If your sex ideal is “the deeper the better,” the Butterfly sex position is right for you. This is a half-standing, half-lying sex position in which the receiving partner reclines on a raised surface (think: bed, table, countertop). The penetrating partner can have handcuffs on the penetrating partner (i.e., arms). Next, their heels line up with the shoulders of the penetrating partner, who has to get all athletic and get there before penetrative sex occurs.

Why it's great: The Butterfly offers a great view to the standing partner, making it an ideal visual learner. Otherwise, this position aligns the penetrating partner's hips in a way that allows them to take in cervical stimulation. And their hands are free for clitoral action.

Happy Scissors

Here's another great sex position for any flat surface. In the Happy Scissors position, the receiving partner lays on a hip-height surface, while the penetrating partner stands in front of them. The difference is that the deceiving partner must open their legs and direct their feet toward the roof. One option is to use a vibrator for stimulation.

Why it’s great: Happy Scissors’ open-legged position is super sexy. Lying on their back, the bottom partner invites their partner to look into and fill their wide, open hole. This setup can be extraordinarily arousing to the extent that power dynamics are explored in bed, as the receiving position is one of submission.

Plus: This position also exposes all kinds of erogenous zones along the legs and below the feet. Who knows, and maybe Happy Seizures is the reason you’ve been looking for to give toe-sucking a go in the bedroom.

Another great way to enhance sexual experiences is sensory play. This involves using all five senses to increase arousal. For example, wearing a blindfold can increase tactile sensations, while using scented candles or scented lubricants can add excitement. Plus, playing sex adventure games can also create emotions and enhance the experience.